Last updated on August 22, 2020
If your first instinct is…ughhh this topic is not for me, then it’s exactly RIGHT for you! Stay with me mamas, ladies…
You deserve some ‘Oh So Good’ You Time!
If you go back way back when I lived with my parents and even a few years after graduating high school…I too would have skipped this episode, growing up in a very traditional family setting and small town, sex what not part of the conversation….cue giggles and blushing if we did venture to mention the word sex, vagina or penis in one sentence….I’m smiling just thinking of it. Oh that sweet innocent life.
Once you start opening your mind to it, there’s a whole world of pleasure that you can explore.
Carlyle Jansen
Well, if only I had known what I know now, sex would not have been a taboo topic. In fact, through my own interest and reading/research and intimate relationships I quickly learned that sex is a learned skill and even more so should be included as a self care tool for all of us … why should men have all the pleasure!
Keep an open mind, seriously, sex has been linked to numerous health benefits and the boost of feel good chemicals you get from having some pleasure shouldn’t be limited to if or when you have a partner and let alone when you both want to actually do it.
Carlyle Jansen is a sex and relationship therapist, psychotherapist that has online videos and workshops as well as a Good For Her store located in Toronton, Canada…..but you can also access her shop online where you’ll find her recommended sex toys and other sex related books and objects. She is also offering some 1 on 1 coaching if you’re interested and need a little help with your own sex life (partners or not).
So this conversation will get you to …
Feel Sexy & Boost Your Confidence No Matter Your Age!
Seriously Mamas/Ladies…don’t wait for your partner to be in the mood…maybe you only have a small window of you time where the kids won’t come running into your bedroom or bathroom,….maybe some days you just feel like crap and want to feel good….’Hello, Sex For Moi!’
Don’t wait for someone else to teach you about your own body, you’ve got this. Carlyle Jansen will guide you through how or where to get started to learn what are you erogenous zones and non-erogenous zones that makes you feel soooooo goooooodddddd!
Honestly, she will give you specific tips on what to use, what to do with it and it very simple. No stress, No Insecurity, No Shame, your body is beautiful and unique and that’s why it’s so important that you learn what you like and don’t like. Like Carlyle will explain, each woman prefers different things when it comes to our sexual pleasure and needs, so enjoy this because you will definitely improve your own sex life through masturbation.
Become A Pleasure Seeker
Can you remember the last time you you ate something that made you moan just a litttle ‘mmmmmm so good’ or maybe you wore something sexy underneath you clothes on a very average day and felt like you were being sneaky and felt good or maybe you went somewhere new and exciting and all of your senses were just hightened….?
Well, that’s what masturbating or solo sex also has the potential to be for you. Trust the process ladies, mamas, there’s no shame or judgement here, let alone no one needs to know about it except you and your partner if that’s your preference.
But as Carlyle will explain, every woman has a different unique and that also applies to what turns you on. So don’t expect a book or magazine article to give you the answer BUT what this conversation will give you are lots of ideas to try on yourself and how to get started exploring your favorite pleasurable areas and tools if applicable.
Now let’s get it on….don’t skip the process, you can’t expect others to pleasure you if you don’t even know what you want or enjoy!
Make Your Sex Life Exciting Again (With Or Without A Partner)
Sex is a form of play.
Carlyle Jansen
You’ll stay young if you don’t lose your sense of play. This is an essential part of feeling good and keeping those negative feelings at bay when you and your partner or you single mamas are having sex because you’ll kick those happy chemicals into high gear. If you have 15 minutes that’s great! If you want to go for a longer time that’s also great! The point is that when you try something new, you will add some spice back into your life.
Be your own best lover, it’S not that complicated but you do have to take the time to do it…for yourself.
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What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
0-6:00 Intro
6:00 Growing up in a conservative, ‘we don’t talk about sex at home’
8:45 Getting some much needed sex education as an adult.
11:10 The impact of your parenting on a child’s sex education and confidence.
13:50 Becoming confident about sex
16:30 Discovering orgasms
17:33 This is the problem with the current sexual model were presented as how to have sex.
21:50 Masturbation for women is much more common
22:50 Health Benefits of Masturbation
26:50 How to become a pleasure seeker & take care of yourself as a mom
28:50 Give yourself permission to feel pleasure (divorced or even if your 65yrs old)
30:00 Learning about your own body.
32:36 Her most popular sex workshops.
36:10 Adding some spice to your sex life with or without a partner.
37:15 About her book ‘Sex Yourself’ & specific techniques
38:00 Common misconceptions about masturbation that you need to understand
40:00 If your partner masturbates does it mean that he doesn’t want to have sex with you?
41:30 Kids are masturbating at a young age
44:40 Where is & how you can find your G-Spot
48:10 How to find your best erogenous zones
52:30 How to add props to your sex session
54:30 Play with your senses and allow yourself to fantasize about someone, someplace
55:50 What to do when you can’t orgasms
57:55 What sound should you make when having a real orgasm?
59:10 What happens when your husband or life partner can’t make you orgasm?
1:02:05 The erogenous zones around your anus. How to explore those sensations.
1:06:00 A few freshly squeezed questions for Carlyle about sex
1:12:40 Where can you find Carlyle Jansen online?
1:14:30 The LAST Question
Connect With Our Guest:
- Website– Carlyle Jansen
- Website – GoodForHer
- Youtube Channel – Good For Her
- Twitter– Good For Her
- Facebook – Good For Her
- Instagram – Good For Her
Ressources Mentioned In This Episode:
- Book – Sex Yourself by Carlyle Jansen
- Book – Anal Sex Basics by Carlyle Jansen
- Porn Streaming for Real Women
- Sex Toy- Magic Wand
- Sex Toy- Cock Ring
- Sex Toy- Dildos
- Womanizer Vibrator
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